How to build confidence (and the question you should ask instead)

How do you build higher levels of long-lasting confidence? The type that stands the test of time and doesn’t rely on you looking good and feeling better than all the rest. Many things we traditionally use to build confidence don’t work in the long-term because they only go surface deep. So what should we do […]

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The Trainspotter And The Cowboy – Which One Are You?

We show up as two key characters in life; The Trainspotter and The Cowboy. The trainspotter reads all the books and attends all the courses before acting because there’s always something they need to learn so they’re ready. The cowboy read one book and is now teaching it. The cowboy is making mistake after mistake but learns […]

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2 How To Use Your Next Fight To Improve Your relationship

The quality of your relationships is proportional to how well you learn to fight. That’s because it’s actually possible to improve your relationship following your next fight.  Fights lead to more fights which leads to mistrust, distance, disconnection and ultimately to a break down in the relationship. To improve your relationship you need to change […]

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3 Reasons Why Men Don’t Ask For Help

Help

Whether he’s making shelves out of the drawers you bought from Ikea, “exploring” country roads or silently growing moles the size of mushrooms, men have one thing in common. They don’t like asking for help. Yes, this can be a stereotype and one I’m well used to hearing but if we look at the evidence […]

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Why New Year’s Resolutions Suck And What You Can Do Instead

New Year's Resolutions

There are some strange traditions around the world. Tomato fights in Spain, the battle of the oranges in Italy, cinnamon showers in Denmark and cheese rolling competitions in England. Another tradition, and one which doesn’t involve an unnecessary waste of good food, is setting New Year’s resolutions. An opportunity to remove something you really enjoy during […]

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6 Things You Need To Have More Purpose In Life

Purpose

I interviewed a group of men recently and asked them a simple question. What’s the most important thing in your life that you don’t have? The number one response from almost every man was that he wanted to live with more purpose in life. These men wanted to make a difference, to feel alive, to […]

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Why “Boys Will Be Boys” Creates Uncontrollable Men

Uncontrollable Men

Whether you like it or not we are all a part of someone else’s story. Each of us has our own stories that describe our habits and beliefs. However, we are also players in much a bigger and wider set of stories. These stories come from our culture and they determine many of our habits […]

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Why Men’s Masculine Power Is A Gift Not A Curse

Masculine power

When I was young I remember noticing that all the bad guys in films were men. It felt like all the prisoners were men, the adulterers were men. I was even told by my teachers that men started all the wars. It felt that if anyone was in pain, chances were it was a man […]

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3 Things Women Say That Men Don’t Understand

Men don't understand

Albert Mehrabian was a psychology professor in the 1970s who famously suggested that only 7% of our communication uses words. This number has been challenged at great length over the years. However, it does point to an important truth. The truth that there is a whole range of ways we communicate beyond the words we […]

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4 A Dirty Word Men Don’t Want You To Know About

Loneliness

There is an epidemic amongst men that they don’t want you to know about. It’s something they’re hiding from you that brings them great shame. They’re hiding it because admitting it exists strikes at the very core of something they learnt a long time ago. Men learnt to hide anything that isn’t consistent with being the […]

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