As I raised my awareness through years of self development I started to become more aware of this repressed part of me, and my discomfort at describing myself as a man. I felt more like a boy still, and couldn’t own the term “I am a man” because it just didn’t feel true to me. Men were rugby players and firemen, not office workers who played the piano.
I started to train in an area widely referred to as Men’s Work which helps men to reconnect to a more primal embodied nature of being a man. A large part of this journey was under the tutelage of John Wineland who has, and continues, to make a huge impact both on my life and the life of many men through the programmes and workshops he runs. I would never be where I am now if it wasn't for John and his work.
Part of the reason for this is the work I did with John helped me to connect to a sense of purpose in life. It connected me to other like minded men which helped me to realise I wasn’t alone. It also enabled me to develop relationships with women that I had never experienced before and it helped to give real meaning to my life.